WOW time flies don't it! I can't believe that my mother-in-law will be leaving on Tuesday...it seems like she just got here. As much as I can't wait to have my house back to myself and get back into the swing of doing things on my own again, I am really going to miss her. She has been such a big help, especially with the boys. they are really going to miss her too, I am not looking forward to all the tears that are going to be shed over the next couple days till they get used to nanny Gwen not being here. I am looking forward to not eating fried food, Brian and I probably gained 10 lbs since she has been here, between her great southern cooking and sweet tea, talk about oink oink!
anyway, changing gears, breastfeeding is going much better, I just need to get some sleep at night, which I should be doing right now. but oh well, Bailey will be a month old already.
I was just reading on Tracy's blog about how she feels she doesn't get to devote enough time to each child and I completely understand. I worry about Cameron the most, some of his not so appealing personality traits are starting to shine through and it scares me. I just hope God prepares and equips us for the future, I can't even imagine the TEEN years with him, he is so strong willed now, time-out doesn't even effect him, usually the only thing that gets through to him is a good swat on a bare leg, which I hate doing but his behavior tends to improve for a short time afterward. Anyway, I could go on all day about my kids discipline problems or should I say MY lack of discipline techniques.
well I need to get some sleep, little bit is out and i have just wasted the last 20 minutes writing on here.
3 comments:
Hi Jill,
I thought about it a little and decided to put my 2 cents in on parenting for you. Obviously take it or leave it.
Neither of my boys EVER responded to time out. I would have had to literally tie them to a chair or lock them in a closet just to get them to stay. (I never did that) On the other hand, they respond so well to spankings that it is almost weird.
Here is what you have to do:
use a wooden spoon on their bare hineys
give them number of swats per age year (2 years gets 2, ect)
Never do it angrily (very hard sometimes)
afterwards you hold them, tell them you love them, and then forgive them completely so that the issue is over and done.
Lastly, you gotta do it every time!
I try to say in my head, "don't yell, just spank."
Also know this, I remember spanking my boys when they were 2-4 years old MANY times a day. It is part of life at that stage. It will get easier.
I hope I didn't overstep my bounds here. I hope you get some sleep soon! Bailey is precious! And girls are easier......when they are little I've heard.....
You linked me! I haven't been linked to by anybody I don't kiss or haven't beaten up. This is totally exciting!
And as far as the getting them to behave like normal people...
Good luck.
Not really, but kindasorta. Jack does well with time outs, it did take a while, but I'm pretty sure he thought we were not actually serious. Olivia was a whole 'nother story. We had to find her currency. Turns out her time with Grandma is VERY VALUABLE to her, and limiting that time is huge in behavior management.
Spanking didn't work with either of them, not sure why, but they just return to the behavior shortly after the spanking. Especially with fellas who tend toward physical behavior, spanking may not reinforce the idea of discontinuing physical behavior, because it is a continuation of physical behavior.
And it is hard, especially with a new baby, to have the energy and the brainpower to give them the business. I know that for certain, having just been there.
Watch The Supernanny for comfort and inspiration. It helps me to know my babes aren't all that bad, and also watching her work with the parents to encourage them to follow through with their rules and consequences until the behavioral expectations are met is great.
The key is not to discipline them one way or another. The key is to be consistent (or as much as possible), so they know what to expect when they do well and when they are naughty little buggers.
Then you will be the winner, and they will be lovely grown-ups.
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